For myself, being a mom of 4. I guess I expect a lot and put quite a bit of expectations on myself.
And with this mindset, I end up getting quickly burnt out and angry when my children act like, well children.
Of course they aren’t perfect. But I see it as a reflection of me and all of my imperfections.
So who am I really upset with? I lash out, yell, and act like a crazy person. All because of what, exactly? Because I see my perfectly imperfect self in my children.
Because I worry that I have somehow completely screwed this mothering thing up.
And I constantly find myself wondering “how could I deserve these beautiful children when most days I am failing miserably?”
Am I the only Momma who feels like this? Who believes this awful lie about themselves most days?
Because thinking that way does nothing to help any situation…
Here’s some truth:
You were chosen to Mother your children. This isn’t a lottery, it did not happen by chance. This was divinely decided.
You are the perfect imperfect mother for your children.
As a mother, you are not called to live out a perfect life or model perfection for your children. You are called to do the best you can, with the help of Christ. He can and will pick up the slack…if only we will allow Him to.
You cannot live out our children’s lives for them. You cannot make their choices or walk with them every step of the way in their life journey. And you are not called to that.
Your children are their own person. They were uniquely and wonderfully made for a purpose. Not yours, but the Lords. He has called them to something even greater than you could EVER imagine.
Your responsibility is to love and nurture your children. To teach, to guide, to train them up. Not so that they will be perfect, but so that when life happens they can find their way back home. Because they will not always take the right path.
Never doubt your abilities as a Mother. Yes, we all have bad moments, days, weeks, whatever. But we are equipped to make it through. We were made for this!